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I didn't mean to stifle all debate on this issue but it's kind of interesting that everyone stopped talking when you had to stop being mean to one another...
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Oh... my... god... LOL. I am amused and yet deeply embarrassed for you. You are like a bottomless well of sheer fail.
You are a feminist tool. Gooday.
Finally... I didn't intentionally call you a liar, and sorry if it came across that way. But I still think you're mistaken if you think feminism as a whole needs to be held accountable for an outspoken fringe minority. Also, I haven't heard of anything similar to those examples happening in other countries. Was Quebec more egalitarian to begin with than the average?
Exactly how loud did you say this? Was it like under your breath thinking out loud, or did you verbally say it with intentions of it being overheard. If it's the former and not the latter, nobody had any right to invade your personal space and chastise you for something that was a personal moment, and was not intended for the audible consumption of others. That is on the level of stubbing your toe, saying "damn" under your breath, and instantly having a prude jump you for "yelling the d-word."
Isn't that rather unfair? For all you know, they do, and you just haven't read it because you don't look at feminist sites (or do you? I don't want to assume). I don't see a lot of evidence that the fringe minority is particularly offensive or dangerous, just that they're annoying. For example, out of your examples from Quebec, only the last one about the schools seemed to show any direct harm being caused to males as a result of the feminists' stonewalling. So other feminists speaking out against the vocal ones wouldn't be 'defending men', they'd just be telling a bunch of women not to speak their minds, which is problematic for obvious reasons. When you add in the fact that most feminists get called crazy anyway, either because somebody hasn't understood them, hasn't bothered to take their argument seriously or just plain doesn't like women, it gets muddied even further.Evil Figment said:Held accountable...I wouldn't say I hold feminists-at-large accountable for what the vocal minority says. I hold them accountable for not stepping up to the plate and denouncing that vocal minority.
But I thought you said the proposal was to replace the cheap daycare with giving money directly to parents. If this would have made it less economical to use the daycare services and more economical for a parent to just stay home, then wouldn't the feminists have a legitimate point there? Let's face it, the overwhelming bulk of stay-at-homes are women, and it's not always by choice - women make less money than men on average for working the same hours, so if one spouse is going to quit his/her job, the wife will usually be the one earning less, making it more logical for her to quit even if she doesn't want to.Regarding the daycares, other than the fact the proposal came from a conservative party, nothing really. The worry seemed to be simply that giving parents the option of having one of them stay home and look after the children (without any gender distinction) amounted to sending women back to the kitchen, which is a pretty far leap.
But feminists don't have a problem with stay-at-home mothers, just the social expectation that women should automatically take on the bulk of parenting duties.(And, of course, something that angers me - my mother stayed at home, by her own free choice, to look after her children, and I tend to take very dim views on people who look down on her for that. And on governments that exclude her from their parenting helps policies)
I think you're ignoring a good-sized chunk of what is problematic about that story. Namely that Nomura believes it is his right "as a man" to be allowed to check out chicks in the office and talk about it openly with the other guys, regardless of whether it makes the women uncomfortable. If somebody doesn't like your behaviour, you have a social obligation to take their feelings into account and not bitch about how they're taking away your inalienable privilege to say whatever you want.Lethal Carnivine said:Like I said before, I don't think Nomura should have been chastised for his actions. Especially if they were under his breath.
Yeeeeeah. That's why you shouldn't commit sexual harassment. Because dem bitches will take your moneyz.Though I realize it's probably not best to risk it not because it's offensive, but because some people are looking for any way to get money, including a law suit for sexual harassment.
I'm perfectly aware of that. I never said that accusing someone should lead to an automatic conviction. But the conviction rate used to be something like 40% in the 60s, and now it's dropped to 5.8%. Why is this?BlackJack said:Jo-Jo, belief doesn't lead to conviction right away, since you still have to be able to *prove* it.
You can also prove that the attacker used force. Of course, that's usually dismissed as consensual rough sex in court. Or you can prove that the victim was so drunk at the time of the sex she would have been practically unconscious, but then it'll be claimed that drunken sex doesn't count as rape, even though legally it totally does if you're completely blotto... also the victim obviously just regretted having sex later and pretended it was rape to soothe her feelings (...how?). Or sometimes the attacker conveniently videotaped the assault, in which case it'll be probably claimed that the victim was playing a part in an amateur necrophiliac porno (google Greg Haidl if you want to turn your stomach).All you can really prove beyond a doubt is that Person A and Person B had sex. To convict on rape you have to prove that there was any degree of unwillingness, and that's very very hard to prove.
That's because women make up the vast majority of victims. Most of them still don't report it anyway.Either way, women are encouraged to report rape. Men are not.
Most of the public service messages I've seen were telling women not to drink, lest they bring rape down on themselves. It would be nice if more adverts encouraged men not to assault people, rather than telling women not to have as much fun as men because they're likelier to suffer for it.Pay attention to the public service messages--they're all about female victim/male assaulter, and pretty much denying any other combination as being possible.
Off the top of my head: there was a line of WCKD ads quite recently that all had slogans on them such as 'send your girlfriend somewhere cool... to the fridge for a pork pie!'. An ad on the underground for a used car dealership told a lovely story about a man who kept his nagging wife happy with a shiny new car - then used the extra cash from the awesome discount to go on a dirty weekend with the girlfriend. Then there's this ad for a gaming console, dreaming of a better world... a world in which women can't say no to sex! Wheee, happy rape time! For general stereotyping and amusing gentle satire, the entire Target Women back-catalogue rips the piss out of ads for yoghurt, cleaning products, wedding shows, etc.shedinjask said:Please point out these ads insulting women, I see none of them.
What problems do men face that are unfairly inflicted upon them because they're men?Blackjack Palazzo said:See, I wonder that too (about why people don't talk about the problems men face) because really there's not many problems that women *exclusively* face.
What "feminist leadership" are you talking about? We're not a cult.
I'm pretty sure you'd blanch with outrage if I told you that, as a man, you have no choice but to take responsibility and stage a public outcry every time a misogynist did something shitty to a woman. But feminists are supposed to spend all their time throwing each other to the wolves any time some dude gets butthurt over their mere existence? Given how utterly disproportionate the whining over mean annoying feminists is with the amount of actual damage feminists have done to the world/other people, I get the feeling we'd have to give up helping women entirely and take up defending teh menz full time in order to make these guys happy. Yikes, count me out.
What problems do men face that are unfairly inflicted upon them because they're men?
What problems do men face that are unfairly inflicted upon them because they're men?
* For example, a good friend of mine made a scornful remark about the 'Dancing Queen' sequence in Mamma Mia the movie: "oh, look at us, la la la, we're so happy and we hate men". Yep - going one song and dance routine without any men onscreen is proof positive of man-hatred. 'Dancing Queen'... it's, like, the misandrist's nation anthem. (...Ooooh, I would SO become a misandrist if I could have 'Dancing Queen' as my national anthem. Eeeeeee.) So there you have it. Feminists - we're here, and we're destroying the world through ABBA.